I was asked by a young person recently about getting married young.
I guess society's attitudes have a way of worming into our brains, because my instinct is to say, "No, no! Take your time! Don't do it!"
Which is hypocritical. And absolutely ridiculous.
I met The Husband when I was 19. By 20, we were engaged. At 21 (and before college graduation), we were married.
We just had to, you see. No, I don't mean for any practical reasons. I wasn't pregnant, he didn't need medical insurance (actually, we took a big financial hit, since marriage meant I had to go on COBRA). We were just young, and in love, and our hearts were bursting. We just had to get married. Which is, incidentally, the only reason why I think you should get married. If you don't just have to ... don't.
For us, that was also the reason for having children. Our hearts were just bursting with wanting to. We just had to have those little humans join us.
I'm sure there are cogent, logical arguments for marriage and children. But I'll confess that both getting married and having babies were outside logic. Outside words. They were both something that my soul cried out for.
Is young marriage hard? Absolutely. You're not fully formed, you're still learning who you are. It is very easy to grow into two people who shouldn't be together.
But the flip side is what we experienced ... we got to grow up together. We melded. Our interests merged. We talk, sometimes, about what it would be like to be the individuals we are now, and trying to merge lives. We can't imagine it.
So, maybe it's all just luck. But for whatever reason, if two b'shert are lucky enough to find each other young, it's a gift.