Okay, now that I am through with my term paper, I can rant about something that happened last week. Of course, by being "through" with my term paper, I mean that it's written. I still have to go in and cover-sheet it, and turn full refs to ibids, and such.
And now the rant ...
The Boy (middle school) has a lovely school counselor who has called him in to break the ice, talked to him about what's going on with Little Warrior, and just been very helpful.
So, I asked The Princess (elementary school) if she wanted me to contact her counselor and ask for her to have a meeting. Princess said sure, she'd like that. (Bo Peep had no interest, which I knew. Talking to a stranger about her feelings would be the 4th level of hell for my shy one. Luckily, she has Greatest Kindergarten Teacher Ever.)
So, The Princess goes to see the school counselor. Public School Counselor. That's important.
At some point in their conversation, The Princess asks the counselor if she thinks Little Warrior will die. This is good, that she opened up like that, right?
Except that this is what happens:
Counselor: What religion are you?
Princess: Unitarian Universalist.
Counselor: Okay, so you're a Christian.
Princess: (doesn't say anything)
Counselor: Well, you need to just be able to allow your baby sister to live out God's plan for her.
Words. Gasp. Fail. Me.
Forget the assumption that Princess is Christian. Eh, we're used to it. But even if she were, for this Public School Counselor to pass on such egregiously Bad Theology, is ... just ... stupifying. There are plenty of Christians ... even conservative Christians ... even conservative Christian ministers ... who don't hold that particular belief.
As a theology student, a potential minister, the spiritual damage this could do just hurts me. I mean, if you're 8 years old and someone tells you that the reason why your baby sister has cancer AGAIN is because it's God's plan? And she needs to, you know, suck it up and accept it?
On the good side ... The Princess is not prone to deep theological conversations -- that's just not her thing. But (thank you, UU Church!) she knew that this was Just Not Right and came and told me about it. And when I asked what she thought about what the counselor said, she kind of rolled her eyes and said the she didn't believe that.
And she wanted to know what I thought. And I told her that I most definitely did NOT believe that God caused this. But that when we cry about it, God cries, too.
And she smiled. And nodded.