Prepare to scream, but I stand my ground.
I'm buying it for a young woman friend of mine. Now, I was already well-married when the book came out, and like most everyone of our (liberal, feminist) type, I thought the whole idea was horrible.
Well, a few years ago, I saw it in a friend's bookcase, and picked it up. And read it. And agreed with most of it.
Not all of it. Some is just manipulative. Don't call back, even if he leaves you a message? Pah.
But a whole lot of it made a lot of sense. It was the stuff Mama told you in high school, that you didn't want to hear. Don't chase after boys. Don't be so convenient. If a boy calls you Saturday afternoon for a date Saturday night, say no. "If you would just spend as much time on your schoolwork as you do thinking about boys ..."
Now ... if they would just change the title to "The Rules -- How to Maintain Your Individuality and Keep Your Self-Respect" -- everyone would like it.
Except the playas.